10 Ways To Be Happy For A Day!

OMG, welcome back to another Self Care Saturday post. I have not done one of these in about 6 months, because I had been working 12-hour shifts every single weekend. More about how that was not making me happy below. You may have read my post last year on how to be happy for an hour. I think it takes work, to practice self-care, to be a little selfish once in a while. Studies have shown that Americans are not happy, and while everyone has their own reasons for not being happy there are some things you can try to help improve your happiness. Baby steps, from an hour of happiness, up to maybe a year. This article will explain some ways that are proven to help you be happier, but I think some of these are more long-term than just for a day. Below, are my ten ways to be happy for a day.

  1. Spend time with friends, especially friends you may not see often. This morning I went to a small local flea market with a friend of mine, and then we stopped at this cute little coffee shop to visit. It was maybe 2 hours tops that we were together, but it was lovely. I don’t generally like to spend money on only myself, but you know what, why not? I spent maybe 35 dollars total getting some awesome produce, some skin care products, coffee, and a banana muffin that we split. We even face timed some of our coworkers who are still working at the place we both left.
  2. Sit in the sun. I love the sun! Yes, I know you have to be careful of skin cancer and all that. So, for the first 15 minutes sit out with just bare arms and legs, if you can, and then apply sun screen if it is needed. The sun energizes me and makes me feel good. Plus, your body will make Vitamin D and you may not have to take a supplement. You might not sit there all day, but maybe you will.
  3. Take a dog for a walk. A nice hour walk is both good for you and the dog. If you don’t have a dog there are plenty of shelters and rescues that need dog walkers. Check them out. I promise you will be happier for it. You can even make extra money walking dogs. Check Rover.com, Craigslist, and Indeed for people looking for dog walkers. Walk several dogs, even better!
  4. The article states that just planning a trip, even if you never take it will make you happier. Bleh, no! I say plan a day trip, then take it! Whether you take it alone or with someone just take it.
  5. If you hate your job find a new one. Stress from our jobs is the number one cause of unhappiness in my opinion. You need to do something you love! Pick a day out of each week to start researching job openings, and then applying. If you need to improve your resume, or work on job skills, there are plenty of internet sources that are free that can help you. You will feel better about yourself and be happier.
  6. Learn to live within your means, or a minimalist lifestyle. What does that mean? Don’t buy stuff you don’t need. We are a junk driven society that thinks we need to have new furniture every year, and a new car every other. 50 outfits, with matching shoes, I mean it just isn’t necessary. All that stuff is not going to make you happy, so spend a day getting rid of anything that you don’t wear or use, and then commit to not buying more.
  7. Eat better foods. OK, I put this one her because I urge you to try to eat better for a whole day and then see if you feel any different. Eat whole foods, unprocessed, low salt, low fat, and low sugar. I think you will be happier with how you feel, and knowing that you are nourishing your body not just feeding it.
  8. Turn off social media. Yep, for a whole day no social media. Even better would to turn your phone off for a whole day.
  9. Do a craft, or a hobby. I don’t craft much anymore due to the arthritis in my hands, but this blog, and writing is a great way for me to find stress relief by helping others and ultimately that makes me happy. Each blog post takes about an hour of time, some longer, a few less. I also love photography, now that I don’t really paint anymore.
  10. Forgive someone. This one may actually have to be a long term goal if the hurt will take a long time to get over. But, forgiving others is for you, not for them. You will be able to have closure, resolution, and move on. Even if they deny they hurt you, or don’t accept forgiveness, you will have a weight lifted off your chest which will always make you happier. Choose a day to sit down and contemplate how you want to approach the person that needs forgiveness. Write it out and practice what you will say. Don’t worry about how they respond that doesn’t matter. That is on them. You can only control yourself.

I hope this list will help you find happiness for a whole day. Let me know in the comments, like and share if you will. If you would like to use me as a Health Coach to help you meet your wellness goals, send me a message with the contact form below to arrange a free consultation.


day 4 Zero Points/Very Low fat food challenge!

If you read yesterday’s post then you know that I had to take a 24 hour break from the challenge to assess why I was bloated, gassy, and had much abdominal pain. I suspected it was the sugar substitutes and possible phosphorus additives in the low fat, and or sugar free items I had been eating. I suspect I am right, because after 24 hours I feel back to normal and ready to go, minus those food items. If you need to check back to day one to see my rules setup, please click here. I will add one day to the challenge to make it a full 2 weeks due to the day off. You may see affiliate links in this post.

Today, my son and his wife will be coming for dinner, so we are having a nice meal. Below you will see what I have eaten, and will eat for today.

Breakfast: Just coffee

Lunch: 1 medium banana. 1 cup cooked pasta salad with cucumbers, part skim mozzarella cheese .5 ounce, bell pepper, and 2 tbsp Raspberry Vinaigrette. I also had 15 Snyder’s Pretzel nuggets.

Dinner I will have: Extra lean pork tenderloin 3 oz with 2 tbsp of the bbq sauce shown below. Homemade coleslaw made with low fat Hellman’s mayonnaise. I will have 1/2 cup serving of that. 1 cup chopped watermelon, and 1 ear corn on the cob. I cut it off the cob and use 1 tbsp of Land O Lakes Whipped Butter.

Nutrition Info:

Calories: 816

Total Fat: 14 grams

Saturated Fat: 4 grams

Cholesterol: 75 mg

Sodium: 738 mg

Total Carbs: 137 grams

Net Carbs: 125 grams

Fiber: 12 grams

Protein: 43 grams. This is just right for me


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relax it’s the weekend!

Whether it is on a Saturday, or a Sunday, don’t forget to take some me time and just relax. For me it will be tomorrow, Easter Sunday. I tend to do my relaxing on Sunday anyway, except when I work and then my Monday is my Sunday. I think it is hard to just relax and not stress about backed up laundry, dishes, meal planning, school, work, family, friends, etc, etc, etc. Some alone time to relax and thing does a body good. So make sure you squeeze some in. Monday, or Tuesday I am sharing my coaching giveaway for April. I am giving my mailing list members a chance to sign up first. Are you doing my April Health challenge, toning up the triceps? Be sure and let me know in the comments how you are doing, or join my mailing list to see how I am doing.

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10 ways to be happy for an hour!

Happy Self Care Saturday! Today is also International Earth Day. There is an old Chinese Proverb about being happy. I have adapted parts of it to suit my self care needs. Below are 10 ways you can be happy for an hour. Happiness is key to Self Care though everyone may have their own definition of what it means to be happy and whether it is achievable. To me happiness is a state of feeling free of stress, burdens, worry, strife, work, demands, etc.

  1. I think lots of people will agree with this. If you want to be happy for an hour, take a nap. I am not a good napper, especially for only an hour, but just lying quietly with my eyes closed and resting is wonderful. I don’t have to actually fall asleep. That generally just makes me feel icky.
  2. Take a walk in nature for an hour. Not a sweaty, heavy breathing exercise kind of walk. A peaceful, slow, gentle walk someplace you find beautiful and quiet. This could be anywhere. You also don’t have to walk the whole time. You can sit and appreciate your 5 senses, sight, hearing, smells, touch, and taste. Be sure you are not on your phone, and it is silenced, and that you are either walking with someone who is quiet and not talkative, or take your dog.
  3. Volunteer for an hour. We volunteer once a week at a dog rescue. Helping dogs rescued from shelters that may be kill shelters, or have been abandoned and unloved is so rewarding. If we lived closer I am sure we would do it more often.
  4. If you are more of a sociable person make sure to set aside an hour at least weekly to be with family or friends. If it can’t be in person then do a video chat, or talk on the phone. If you are more of an introvert this may not be your best option.
  5. Get a massage or mani pedi.
  6. Do gardening. If you have not learned the art of gardening and how wonderfully happy it can make you, then you are missing out. Getting your hands dirty and learning to grow your own food or beautiful flowers makes me very happy. Plus today is Earth Day.
  7. Treat yourself to a meal out, order in, or have someone else cook for a meal. You may not do this daily, but at least weekly. Check out Meals With Melissa.
  8. If you can afford this hire a maid for an hour a day, or even an hour a week. I know that would make me happy.
  9. I know this one is weird but I am really quite happy cleaning my pool. Maybe it is because I get the warm sun on my skin, no one is bothering me, no phone, no kids, no husband, just me and the pool. During the Summer months I clean my pool everyday.
  10. Try being crafty. I know people say they are not crafty or artistic, but you may surprise yourself. An hour a week, or daily if you can, may make your very happy. Some things you may not have considered as crafty are: learn to play an instrument, paint, draw, crochet, knit, pottery, photography, writing, learn a new language, learn sign language, computer graphics such as create an app, glass etching, and so many more I may not have thought of.

I am sure there are others that I didn’t include, exercise or going for a motorcycle ride comes to mind. What is your favorite way to be happy for an hour? Share in the comments.

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Goodbye 2020!

It’s almost over! The year of the face mask will be in the history books. This whole week, right up until New Years I will be posting based on review and reflection. Some personal, and some related to this blog. 2020 was not the year I expected, but I assume everyone can say that. So much pain and stress, and time for a fresh start.

Most people will probably choose to be safe and not have New Year’s Eve party. But, that doesn’t mean you can’t decorate and celebrate in your own home with those who live with you. Below you will find some awesome, easy crafts to decorate your home and celebrate the new year. There are some fun games, too. My family loves games, but I don’t think we are getting together, other than those that live here. My husband my let off the rest of the fireworks from the 4th of July, which will be nice for the community to watch right from their yard, and not risk being in large gatherings. Watch for some food and drink options in the next few days.

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Check out these awesome New Years crafts, decorations and games:

This first one is right from the Dollar Tree website, https://www.dollartree.com/new-years-wreath/idea-201512-34 It is a beautiful wreath.

This next set is geared towards toddlers, but I think any age would enjoy them, and you could always modify them, https://toddlerapproved.com/2017/12/easy-new-years-eve-party-ideas-for-kids-html.html

Does your family love Minute to Win It? I do, I think it is a great way to spend with family, or friends, https://www.u-createcrafts.com/new-years-eve-minute-to-win-it/

These wishing wands are adorable. If you are a homeschooler these would make great essay or story topics, https://lifeovercs.com/new-years-craft-for-kids-wishing-wand/

This one has 50 clever Dollar Tree New Year’s crafting and decor ideas. Check it out, https://www.prudentpennypincher.com/dollar-store-new-years-eve-party-ideas/

Finally you can watch the video below for even more easy craft ideas for New Year’s.

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simple saturday menu planning

Happy Saturday! Can you believe there is only 6 days until Christmas? I hope everyone is staying safe by wearing your masks, social distancing and good hand hygiene. Here in FL cases are really on a steady increase. This is my weekend to work, and my new hip and thigh compression wrap came yesterday. I will try to wear it the whole shift. The hip pain is not too bad this morning. I was able to sleep really well. Yesterday, I said I would share my Fitbit stats and then I forgot. So, below there are 3 days of stats, Wed, Thurs, and Fri.

I watch a lot of 5 dollar dinner ideas on Youtube. About a month ago I shared with my readers a whole list of 5 dollar meal ideas. So, each week when I do my menu plan I will be making at least one 5 dollar meal. It annoys me that these meals on Youtube are generally made from beans. I am not saying there is anything wrong with beans but there are so many other meals you can make. Eggs is another item used a lot. I am going to try and make the meals as healthy as possible. They may or may not have meat. Some will assume you already have some pantry items. I hardly ever see potatoes used, and potatoes are a nutrition powerhouse.

Yesterday I went shopping. As I stated before we are trying to stick to a budget, and I increased it to 75 dollars a week, because 50 was just too tight. I also went back to biweekly shopping, as that is what I have done for years, and found I was spending more weekly. Impulse buying is a real thing, lol. I spent 157 dollars, so a little bit more than 75 each week. But, it is a process learning to live on a strict budget. Below you will see my menu for the week. Our Christmas dinner is quite expensive, but we only eat that once a year on Christmas. The five dollar dinner will be marked, and I will share the meal plan that day. Plus it makes leftovers so it is even more cost efficient. I will also share how I make each of them more fitting for me as I have CKD and am following lower carbs for weight loss.

Saturday 12/19: Pizza rolls. This is for my husband and daughter. I will not eat this. I am taking leftovers to work. This technically cost 4 dollars, so could be a 5 dollar dinner,

Sunday: Ravioli, bread and salad. Again, this could technically be 5 dollars. Raviolis are very affordable.

Monday: Chicken Teryaki, brown rice, broccoli carrot cabbage onion stir fry. Buy the whole chickens they are cheaper and you will get several meals out of one chicken.

Tuesday: This is our 5 dollar meal day. We volunteer this day, plus we are going to have Christmas with my mom. I hope it is warm because we need to stay outdoors. Dinner will be Spaghetti with meat sauce, and salad.

Wednesday: Leftovers from Monday and Tuesday. That whole chicken I mentioned has a ton of chicken on it. It may even do 3 meals or some lunches. Spaghetti also makes a lot of leftovers.

Thursday: Christmas Eve. Because of my son’s work schedule and I have to work Christmas, we are doing Christmas on Christmas Eve. Prime Rib, mashed potatoes, rolls, green beans, and brownies.

Friday: Leftovers Merry Christmas!

My menu plans are only for dinners. Breakfast and lunch is whatever is available.


Gift Idea #5 For People With CKD

Updated 12/2/2021: I did get an air fryer for Christmas, and if you have a larger family the smaller one shown in the post is really not going to be great. I do use it a lot for reheating food though, and it is awesome for that.

Happy, Happy Saturday! I hope everyone is well and staying away from the Covid.

Today, I chose an air fryer as gift idea #5 for people with CKD. Why? People with CKD are more prone to Heart Disease and decreasing fat intake is part of prevention of Heart Disease. Air fryers are a great replacement if you love deep fried foods, but don’t want all of the fat. I actually asked for one of these for Christmas. Not that I really love deep fried foods, but I do love the crispiness of deep fried foods. With the air fryer I don’t have to heat up the house with the oven, or the stove, to get crispy fried chicken or french fries. I can not wait to get mine and play around with it. My husband ordered mine at Belk because they had an awesome Black Friday deal. It is similar to the one shown below and it can be bought at Amazon. All of the major department stores are selling these. But with Covid it might be safer to order online. The air fryer may benefit everyone in your home by decreasing fat intake.

Read about air fryers here, and how much they reduce fat intake, here.

Be sure and research what breading, or batter is best used for CKD when frying. As always this is confusing as different websites say different things. I like to use a mixture of baking soda and all purpose white flour, with herbs and spices added in. Bread crumbs and batters can be very high in sodium and phosphorus, and sometimes potassium. I use the bare minimum of breading needed and depending on what else I ate that day instead of an egg dip, I may just use water.

A note about my daily meals. My daughter is having pizza today, but I decided to make bbq pulled pork, with the leftover pork, and have it with fried cabbage and onions. The pork needed to not be wasted and I am still working my way through that large head of cabbage. If I had my air fryer I could try putting the cabbage in there, Yum. For my work dinner I will just take a large salad. You are probably thinking that is way too low of carbs. Well you would be correct, except I had homemade sunflower bread for breakfast, two slices with over 50 grams of carbs.


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14 days of Gratitude: Day 2 and the outdoor christmas tree

Happy Saturday! I am happy you are here. Today is day 2 of my 14 days of gratitude journaling challenge. Did you do day 1? Today’s prompt is: What is your favorite scents? Now it was meant to be scent as in one, but unfortunately I can not pick just one. So, I made it scents. While I love a lot of scents I definitely have some favorites. I like scents in candles and air fresheners, but they aren’t really natural scents. So, I am sticking with natural scents.

My most favorite natural scents:

1-Apple cinnamon They can be separate but I especially love them together.

2- Jasmine


4- Peppermint

5- Fresh crisp clean air, usually in Fall when it is dry and lovely.

I am grateful I can smell these lovely things. I have a sister who can not smell at all. I feel so bad for her, not that she complains. I am so sensitive to smell that I can not cook meals overnight in the crockpot like some lucky ladies can. I will smell it all night and it will keep me awake, lol. I also had to stop using my diffuser at night as the smells would disturb my sleep. So weird, lol!

What are your favorite scents? Think about it and write them down. If you are not sure go on a smell testing adventure, and then be grateful you discovered them.

Today, for Self Care Saturday, I am sharing a post I found on Pinterest about the Outdoor Christmas Tree. We had done a variety of this many years ago when my kids were small using pine cones. We put them on our porch to better see the birds. But, what a lovely idea of decorating a tree just for our feathered friends. We have Palm Trees in our yard, not exactly a traditional Christmas Tree, but we can easily see them. We also have some evergreen trees on the edges of the yard. We could decorate them too as the birds love those trees, but we just won’t be able to bird watch as well. I probably won’t do this until closer to Christmas because the end of December, January, and February is when we really get tons of birds visiting. I will be sure and share a picture when we do it and maybe some birds visiting too. I will try a video. You can read how to do an Outdoor Christmas Tree, here. You may be wondering how this is Self Care. Well, for two reasons. 1- You are being kind to nature, and 2- through the beauty of watching the birds that will visit you may find peace and relaxation. I know I do.

Starting the day after Thanksgiving I will be sharing gift-giving ideas that will be geared towards people with CKD. They will not be affiliate links, just things I find and love myself, or have added to my list. Be sure to watch for that.


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Self Care Sunday: Saint George Island!

We actually went on Saturday, but the post is today. Part of self care is spending time doing things you love with people you love. Just working all the time, and not truly enjoying life is not self care. Yes, we need money to survive the problem arises when money overtakes all enjoyment in life.

We love the beach, especially the ocean. We live in Florida so the beach is usually just a couple of hours away. We decided to take a small day trip each month, rather than trying to save for a big yearly trip, or as it is for us every few years. My son, his wife and their new puppy were able to join us for our trip to Saint George Island in the panhandle. This was our first time visiting the island. It is pet friendly there, and that is why the puppy was able to join us. We ate a cute restaurant and then headed to the beach which you can see from the images was beautiful. We went to the state park on the island, because it is huge and with limited capacity getting too close to people would never have happened. It is only 6 dollars a car to get in, so very affordable. There are bathrooms, changing rooms, and showers. As much as I would love to return to this place, we have made it a goal to visit different places each time. Savannah, GA is definitely on our list, once some cooler weather comes in, maybe November. I don’t know if my son and his wife will be able to come every time, but it was super nice to have them this time.

Of course we had to bring hand sanitizer, face masks, and be sure to social distance. We do not eat at places where the staff are not wearing face masks or following other protocols, matter of fact I won’t shop at these places either. There are plenty, trust me!

If you love making crafts the beach was filled with unique and beautiful shells. I didn’t collect any this time because I have so many already. I was looking for whole sand dollars, as they are huge in the panhandle area. But, I only was able to find broken pieces of ones. Walking on the beach is a great way to get in some exercise, too.

Come back tomorrow to see what my posts for the week will be about.


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Simple Saturday Dollar Tree Garden Ideas

It is Saturday!  That means it is time to share some easy garden ideas.  I love gardening!  It is definitely something I do to relax.  I am not great at growing food, but I am pretty good at flowers.  Plus, I continue to learn.  I have been wanting an herb garden for some time.  Watch the video below to see a super easy, and cheap herb garden idea.  We will be going on vacation in June, so I won’t be setting this up until we get back.  I don’t trust that my son will remember to water it.  I will be sure to share my results when I do mine.  The first project is super cute too.  I have fairy garden lights, that I bought at Amazon, and they are solar-powered.  The next time I go to Dollar Tree I will get a watering can.  I don’t know if I will paint it.  It will depend on the colors.  The pictures are from my fairy garden with solar lights.  I change it for the seasons.  It is still a work in progress.  I need to get some more tiny plants and some people.  At Christmas, I buy the Dollar Tree village items.  I like to get my tiny plants at Trader Joe’s, but with shopping limits, it hasn’t been worth my time to travel that far to get there.  The image shown is my Spring fairy garden.  I need to start getting items for my Summer fairy garden.

Do you garden?  Will you try some of these projects?  Leave me a comment.

The video is not mine.  I found it on Youtube.

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