I love you a lottle!

That is an interesting title, right? Welcome to Wellness Wednesday. Today, is actually my 15th wedding anniversary. The year we got married it was like 95 here in Florida. Today it is a lovely 77. My husband and I have decided that 2021 will be a spend down our debt year, and increase savings. That means no expensive dinner, or gift, for our anniversary. We do have giving money that we set aside each month, but we have other things we want to give to. So, for now our anniversary is a celebration without gifts. I am actually OK with this. I am not a needy, or materialistic person. I am easy going and I feel there are so many other ways to show love to someone than spending money on things. You may have remember me mentioning that on Valentine’s Day as well. I am also not a romantic at heart, but my husband is. So, for today I have been texting him some sweet texts with love and marriage quotes.

Here are 3 of my favorites:

I love you a lottle. It’s like a little but a lot. There was no name to this quote, but I loved it.

Life is better with you in it. I am sure someone said this, but it is just one I remember and use a lot.

Marriages are like fingerprints; each one is different and beautiful. That one is from Maggie Reyes. I really like this one because it speaks to the uniqueness of every marriage, or relationship.

Marriage is hard. You have to work at it to make it awesome. Communication, selflessness, humility, and listening are all necessary in any good relationship. If everything is about just one person it won’t work for long. Not one person in the relationship can give all the time either, while the other takes. It is a give and take of equal requirements.

I have spent this special day working in my garden and yard. It reminds me of how things need to be nurtured and assisted to grow properly. Plus, where do I need to remove weeds, and other impurities to make it better? These activities help keep me grounded in my marriage and all relationships. Is our marriage perfect? Absolutely not! We are still growing in our lives together. If the growth stops then the marriage will stagnate. We encourage each other to keep growing.

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Wisdom on Wednesday: Toxic Relationships

Whether it is a job, a friend, family, place you live etc, when a relationship becomes toxic it is time to move on.

No one likes change, moving, breaking up, getting a new job, etc.  But, if it is wearing you out, bringing you down, affecting you in negative ways, then it is time to move on.

Did you know people will stay at a dead-end job, or job that is stressing them out because it is familiar?  Or in a bad relationship because they don’t want to be alone or offend someone.  It is always good to put others before you and be humble in your ways.  But when the situation is threatening your well being then you have to let it go.

I have learned this the hard way through the years.  Waiting until I am completely worn out, or irritated beyond repair.  I have had to teach myself to be mindful of the things that affect me in negative ways, and try to avoid those things.  This is never easy and takes a lot of mental attention.  Nothing is perfect and learning to be flexible is certainly a good trait to have.  But you also should be aware of your own self and the things that affect you in negative ways.

You only live once.  Letting toxic relationships tear you down will only make life miserable.

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Stress Will Kill You!

Updated 1/30/2022: The pain of Arthritis in my hands has robbed me of my ability to crochet anymore. But, that is OK I have plenty of other hobbies I love.

Have you ever heard medical professionals say that?  Stress will kill you!  I have many times.  Matter of fact there have been times in my own life when I felt like the burden of stress would kill me.  Studies are showing that stress plays a very important role in the health and wellness of our lives.  Stress affects mood, immune systems, blood pressure, heart, gastrointestinal issues, and possibly others too.  Learning to deal with stress is very important.  There are many things that can cause stress.  Family, children, jobs, lack of a job, money, illness, even politics and other social issues.  Dealing with stress is of utmost importance.  It will drain you of all happiness.

So, what is stress?  For the purpose of this blog, stress is defined as a state of mental or emotional strain resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.  Identifying what stresses you out, and then avoiding it, or dealing with it, is essential to optimal health and wellness.

For me, first let me say I thrive on stress, well some stress.  I get bored very easily, and I love a good challenge.  Nothing makes me happier than someone to say to me you will never do that.  Watch me!  But, with that said not all stress energizes me, some sap me of energy and make me feel awful in a lot of ways.  Over the years I have learned many things to help me cope with stress.  Let’s face it you can’t avoid all stressful situations, that is not healthy either, but you can avoid some.  I will do future blog posts on things that work for me, but today I am concentrating on Crocheting.  I learned to crochet many, many years ago.  I didn’t do a whole lot with it, it was more something my mother wanted me to learn.  After I got pregnant with my first child, a very stressful situation, I picked it back up and made him a blanket.  Ooh, it was ugly, but it felt so good to make it.  He still has that ugly old thing today.  I still crochet to this day.  I don’t make anything fancy, that is not relaxing.  I like patterns that repeat, so I just memorize the pattern and crochet away.  While I crochet my mind can think, reflect, ponder however you want to say it. It is great especially when I can’t be outside, or just need to sit and relax.  I am in a club now where the things I make are donated.  I used to sell on Etsy, but have given that up.  It makes me feel good to donate to others in need, another great way to relieve stress I might add.

Please, if you are overburdened with stress, and you need someone to talk to, and help you set goals, limits, and learn stress relievers, use the contact form below to send me an email and make a date for a free consultation.

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