Gift Idea #2 For People With Dementia: Companionship

Welcome to Tuesday! Yesterday, I shared to life-like Joy dog as gift idea #1. If your loved one is still able to care properly for a real pet they make great companions. No affiliate links.

Obviously, they would need to remember to feed, water, and potty the pet at the very least. A way for the pet to get exercise would also be important, plus vet services. Dogs are awesome, I love them! There are tons that are waiting for homes in shelters and rescues all across this country. But, sometimes dogs can jump and or trip an older person. There is also the risk that the dog could get out and not come back. Being sure the dog is chipped, and is wearing proper ID tags will help the dog return home when found. Getting the dog basic dog training would be a great gift idea as well. Cats are another option if your loved one can’t handle a dog.

If your loved one can not take care of a pet anymore, or maybe is in Assisted Living, there are lots of ways to provide them companionship. Hopefully, they are taking advantage of the community outings and activities. Isolation and socialization issues can lead to depression which can make Dementia worse. Visiting them as often as you can, in person, is a wonderful gift for someone with Dementia. Maybe they can have friends visit too. Sometimes these visits may seem to cause agitation after the visit is over, but usually, it is short-lived and they resume their normal daily activities. FB Live and or Messenger are great ways to use video so your loved one can see and hear you. Zoom, Skype, and other video platforms can also be used. Facetime, for iPhones and so many others, is out there now. If your loved one can still handle technology devices Amazon offers an Echo item that you can do video calls on plus many other great features. Obviously, any of these technology gifts may need assistance to use, so be mindful of that when you purchase them as a gift. You don’t want it to frustrate them or cause them to be angry.

For adults that still live at home all of the same ideas still apply. Plus, there are community programs your loved one can sign up for. Do a search for Elder Day Cares or community groups for elders in your area. Help them if they need it to find these programs, and hopefully, they will allow you to assist them. Not all people who suffer from Dementia are willing to accept help, unfortunately.

Do you have any thoughts? Leave them in the comments.

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The 5 Best Gifts to Give Someone With A Chronic Illness

Updated 11/24/2021 This list is geared towards CKD because I have CKD and can relate to it.  But, they can be adapted for anyone with any Chronic Illness.

Have you ever heard the statement you should be grateful for whatever someone gives you? While I agree with that sentiment 100%, there is nothing worse than getting a gift that someone put no thought into at all. Especially if it is from someone who knows you well, cares about you, or knows you have a condition. Or, you get invited somewhere for a holiday party or dinner, and there is nothing you can eat.  So here we go.

  1.  Most people with CKD have issues with Anemia at one time or another and are therefore colder than other people.  Gifts to help them stay warm such as hats, scarfs, mittens these are even better if handmade with love.  Handwarmers that can be reused and put in pockets, heating pads, and blankets, warm socks, and shoes. A heating pad, or blanket is also an awesome gift. I have dry eyes, and am getting Arthritis in my fingers. Warming gloves, paraffin wax treatments, and eye warmers are all wonderful gifts that have meaning.
  2. People with CKD may also suffer from chronic pain, stress, and anxiety with limited medications they can use to relieve pain.  Items like Massage, Guided Imagery, Aromatherapy, Reiki, Reflexology, Spa days, etc make wonderful gifts for someone with CKD or other chronic illnesses. I here at Health Buddy Melissa offer Distance Reiki sessions, and Guided Imagery. Be sure and send me a message if you are interested in purchasing some sessions for your loved one, or yourself, by using the contact form at the end of the post.
  3. Gift cards for whole food stores, or places that sell organic foods with fewer preservatives and chemicals. Or cooking classes to learn how to cook and make better food choices for their particular Chronic Illness. Cookbooks, cooking equipment, etc are also all great gift ideas.
  4. Carts and bags with wheels for easy shopping or that can attach to a walker or wheelchair. One of those grabby things to get things up high are great! Having their cupboards remodeled to make access easier. Maybe they need an access ramp to get into the home easier and safer.
  5. Consideration and love.  This is probably the most important.  When someone with CKD or a Chronic Illness goes to a dinner or party and there is nothing that is safe for them to eat, it is deflating.  Ask them what you can prepare for them that they can safely eat.  Christmas is about love, and kindness, don’t be selfish and not put in a little extra consideration.
  6. I have to add this one.  Save a life and donate a kidney if you can.   Learn more about kidney donation at AKF, or NKF.  If you are absolutely someone who does not feel you would do that, donate to one of those organizations, or one near you, to help save the life of someone with kidney disease. Any organ donation is a gift of life, not just kidneys. You can check off on your driver’s license that you wish to be an organ donor.

None of that is meant to make you feel bad or guilty.  It is simply to help you be more mindful of others and their conditions.  Everyone should be more Mindful, every day.  I love all of you who take the time to read what I share.  Blessings and much love to all of you!

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Throwback Thursday: Be Kind to One Another

Do you ever look back through old posts?  I have a homeschool blog on Blogger, and I look back sometimes.  Number one, I was not a very good writer, lol, but some of the absolute fun things we did are worthy of being shared again.  This blog is less than a year old, but I still have content to reflect on.  I love Christmas.  So, today for Throwback Thursday, I am sharing a post from Christmas time.

For a few updates:

1-  I have just completed my second Guided Imagery script.  This one is to quit smoking.  It will be available for purchase soon.  The first one was for Better Sleep, and I personally use it every night.  It works great!  If you are interested use the contact form below to message me.

2-  I finished Aromatherapy and will start adding info about that.

3-  I am now level 2 Reiki certified.  I do not have a place to do in-person sessions, at this time, but I will soon be offering distance sessions.

4-  Herbalism is also done, and I will be offering info about that.

5-  Finishing up with Meditation, and will soon be taking Reflexology.  As I don’t have a place to do hands-on, I will be promoting self Reflexology.

6-  The support group for Chronic Illnesses begins next Wed, sign up for October closes on Tues.  If you are interested in that, use the contact info below to message me.

7-  I am holding my first Kidney Health Coach class next week.  I am a little nervous, but once I get talking it will all be good.

Lots of exciting things going on here.  How are things in your world?


My Top 5 Tips For Staying Stress Free During the Holidays

Updated 1/6/2022: This is a great Thow Back Thursday post, and it doesn’t have to be just for holidays it can relate to any stressful situation.

LOL!  Who doesn’t love Grumpy Cat?  5 days until Christmas, and the seasonal stress is on the rise.  The holidays can be especially stressful for people with chronic diseases, like me.  I have CKD, and while I do not have high blood pressure, the stress of course can make my blood pressure rise.  That can affect my kidney function, and I don’t want that.  Not all stress is bad for you.  It motivates me and inspires me.  My kids scoff at me when I say that, but it is true.  I love a good challenge.  But stress that is just time-consuming, painful, or limits you, is bad stress.  So what are my top 5 tips for staying stress-free during the holidays?  Keep reading.

  1.  Know Your Limits.  What do I mean by that?  I mean know your strengths, weaknesses, what will annoy you, or stress you out.  For example I don’t do lots of people, or really loud noises.  Unless it is something very important to someone I care about, then I will make every effort to talk myself into it.  I sit on the outskirts of a crowd, never in the middle, and if it is going to be really loud I wear ear plugs.  We went to an Ed Sheeran concert recently, and even though we were outdoors it was still so loud.  If you know something is going to push your stress limits, like a Christmas party, for whatever the reason, just politely say you can not attend.  Shop on non busy hours, or shop online, if crowds or standing in line drives you nuts.  Traffic, family, friends so many things can be stressful, but it can be managed if you set some limits for yourself.  Don’t take on more than you can handle.
  2. Make A List:  What do you have to do, need to do, and want to do? I love lists I make a newst every single week.  Somethings I don’t get to, others I have to get to, and then there are things I want to do.  This helps me stay organized, and focused.  When I work, I keep notes, no personal info, just important things that happen in the day.  It is kept in a private notebook, and I can refer back to it when needed.  I only work 2 days outside the home, at an ALF, and trust me it is a lot to remember, especially when I have 3 days off until the next work day.  A notebook, or journal is a great way to keep your thoughts organized, and use for reflection.
  3. Stay Within Your Budget:  There is nothing more stressful than money issues.  There have been years when we spent so much on Christmas that we spent the next year paying for it.  This made no sense to me, and if you read my post from last week, then you know we have a 3 gift rule.  My husband did not stick to that rule this year, and while I am not letting it stress me out, I am not absolutely thrilled either.  If you have not made a budget for Christmas, be sure and do it next year, or any time of the year.  Living within  your means will relieve a lot of stress.
  4. Volunteer:  Helping others is a great stress reliever.  We volunteer for a local pet shelter, and the food pantry.  We also do a lot of things with our church.  Volunteering can be time consuming, so be sure and pace yourself, so the good thing doesn’t become a stress issue.
  5. Give It To God:  What do I mean by that?  I have been a Christian for many years, but still let the negative effects of stress bring me down.  Then I learned to give it to God.  You don’t have to be a Christian to do this.  Whatever your faith, or religion is, use it to your advantage.  God is a great resource, so use Him.

I hope everyone can have a peaceful, stress-free holiday season.  Be positive, kind, and remember why we celebrate Christmas.  Don’t forget next Thursday is the big reveal.  My price list, calendar, and available packages will be posted.  I have worked very hard on this, and I think potential clients will be pleased.  I will only be coaching up to 4 clients at a time.  Why?  Because, what kind of Health Coach would I be if I bit off more than I could handle.  Have a very Merry Christmas!


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Organizing Your Gift List


Happy Thursday!  Welcome to my regularly scheduled weekly topic.  This week the topic is organizing your gift list.  As you can see we have already shopped, wrapped, and put gifts under our tree.  My kids are older, so this is not a big deal.  Santa does not visit my children per se, anymore.  I love Christmas, but Christmas can be very stressful, including buying and wrapping gifts.  With only 11 more shopping days left, if you have not even started yet, then you need to get going.  Here are some of my favorite tips for organizing a gift list.

1-  Make a budget.  This is very important.  Know how much you can, or are willing to spend, without hopefully going into debt for the next 6 months.   A gift is meant to be thoughtful, not expensive.  We have a 3 rule gift in my house, at least if I am running the gift list.  There are several reasons for this.  One, Jesus was given 3 gifts, and as Christians, I find that to be a respectful amount, and way to teach the Christmas story to my children.  Second, it is a way to stick to a budget, especially in years when money is tight.  It teaches them respect and restraint.  I always set a limit of how much I will spend altogether for all gifts to be purchased.  Don’t forget to include any charities you may want to give to.  For me, I try to set aside stuff all year, like clearance items for Toys for Tots, or items for Operation Christmas Child.  Another great way is to buy nonperishable food starting in the Fall, to donate to organizations that feed the poor or local animal shelters that need toys, blankets, and dog/cat food.  There are several apps that can help, and I will share some in a later post.

2-  Decide which gift receivers are most important.  Obviously children, parents, and friends, in that order, should probably come before coworkers, or your beautician.  I never forget my pets.  They are easy an extra treat makes them happy.  If you have to wait until after Christmas to finish your shopping, due to money issues.  Be honest with your recipients.  If they don’t understand then maybe they don’t need a gift at all.

3-  After you know how much you have to spend, decide what to buy.  If you already know you better start shopping now.  If you are unsure, ask the people on your list what they may like.  I love to go to Bath and Body Works during the holidays and get their hand sanitizer deal for all of my coworkers.  I think they are 6 for 5 bucks or something like that.  I know my kids love money, lol.  If you are like me and try to shop all year, take inventory of what you already have.  If you don’t you may end up spending way over your budget.  Consider baking gifts for close friends, or hand-made gift baskets.

4-  If you need to ship some of your gifts, I believe the 19th is the last day for snail mail to get there on time.  Even Priority Mail takes 2 to 3 days, so keep that in mind.  I used to have items shipped to me, then I wrap and ship them to the recipient.  Eh no more.  I pay a little bit extra to have it gift wrapped from whoever I am buying from, and ship it right to their address.  Saves a lot of useless stress.

5-  Now you have to wrap everything.  I hate wrapping!  Hate it!  I let my kids, who think it is awesome, wrap gifts that are not for them.  I also have no problem using a gift bag or box.  The Dollar Tree is awesome for this.  Plus, they have tons of cute tins to put all those baked gifts in.  I also asked my husband to wrap the last couple of years, and he does some.  I can live with some.  If you live alone, a grandchild, niece, or nephew may be willing to help.  Always remember to ask if you need help.  People can not read your mind.

Don’t forget if want to learn how to be more organized, and have less stress in your life, I am a Health Coach waiting for you. I am a huge advocate of lists and keeping notes. For example, when I am working as a nurse, I keep notes. I save these little blurbs for many years just in case I ever need them again. They do not have personal information just notes to spark my memory should I need to. Start your new day, today. Use the contact form at the end of the post to send me an email for a free consultation.


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